What we say, what comes out of our mouth matters a lot. The phrase "tol mol ke bolo" emphasizes the value of words aptly! What you say can sometimes handle the entire situation, and can worsen the entire thing. People suffer screwed up relationships just because they uttered a wrong statement. Or perhaps at the wrong place and moment.
What if this was not the case? What if the human race could be more broad minded? If after getting offended by something someone said, we just make an effort to dig deeper, realize what he/she exactly felt and then choose to forgive that person? Whatever comes out of the mouth is a result of sheer spontaneity, not everything we say has a logical manipulation behind it. You are asked a question, and you are more keen to make sure that your answer is immediate enough rather than making sure that it is apt enough, then you end up uttering almost anything and that might lead to really unwanted consequences. But, in that case, don't you think that you deserve to be forgiven? At times, you don't because the consequences are anyways suffered. But often enough, its not that big a mistake as much you have to suffer!
I am not keen to claim that always forgive people for whatever they say. Nor everyone deserves to be forgiven neither every mistake. All I want to say is : making a big deal out of it is not what the situation deserves! Someone's few words offend you and you repeat them every day, every week in order to make him realize that he committed a mistake. Can't we forget it, forgive him and bounce back to the way we were? Yeah, obviously we can but we don't or perhaps we don't want to. But just try doing this, and I bet things in life will get smoother.
I hope I have made my point convincingly enough! And if that influences you, do change the way you take things. :)
What if this was not the case? What if the human race could be more broad minded? If after getting offended by something someone said, we just make an effort to dig deeper, realize what he/she exactly felt and then choose to forgive that person? Whatever comes out of the mouth is a result of sheer spontaneity, not everything we say has a logical manipulation behind it. You are asked a question, and you are more keen to make sure that your answer is immediate enough rather than making sure that it is apt enough, then you end up uttering almost anything and that might lead to really unwanted consequences. But, in that case, don't you think that you deserve to be forgiven? At times, you don't because the consequences are anyways suffered. But often enough, its not that big a mistake as much you have to suffer!
I am not keen to claim that always forgive people for whatever they say. Nor everyone deserves to be forgiven neither every mistake. All I want to say is : making a big deal out of it is not what the situation deserves! Someone's few words offend you and you repeat them every day, every week in order to make him realize that he committed a mistake. Can't we forget it, forgive him and bounce back to the way we were? Yeah, obviously we can but we don't or perhaps we don't want to. But just try doing this, and I bet things in life will get smoother.
I hope I have made my point convincingly enough! And if that influences you, do change the way you take things. :)
