what I utter is not what I feel..

What we say, what comes out of our mouth matters a lot. The phrase "tol mol ke bolo" emphasizes the value of words aptly! What you say can sometimes handle the entire situation, and can worsen the entire thing. People suffer screwed up relationships just because they uttered a wrong statement. Or perhaps at the wrong place and moment.
What if this was not the case? What if the human race could be more broad minded? If after getting offended by something someone said, we just make an effort to dig deeper, realize what he/she exactly felt and then choose to forgive that person? Whatever comes out of the mouth is a result of sheer spontaneity, not everything we say has a logical manipulation behind it. You are asked a question, and you are more keen to make sure that your answer is immediate enough rather than making sure that it is apt enough, then you end up uttering almost anything and that might lead to really unwanted consequences. But, in that case, don't you think that you deserve to be forgiven? At times, you don't because the consequences are anyways suffered. But often enough, its not that big a mistake as much you have to suffer!
I am not keen to claim that always forgive people for whatever they say. Nor everyone deserves to be forgiven neither every mistake. All I want to say is : making a big deal out of it is not what the situation deserves! Someone's few words offend you and you repeat them every day, every week in order to make him realize that he committed a mistake. Can't we forget it, forgive him and bounce back to the way we were? Yeah, obviously we can but we don't or perhaps we don't want to. But just try doing this, and I bet things in life will get smoother.
I hope I have made my point convincingly enough! And if that influences you, do change the way you take things. :) 

wierd encounters

Encounters... ya this is what life is made up of, you meet someone, call that an encounter. That is the first time you meet, and ya this is the very meeting that decides, how your relationship will be, how you two will bond up. This illustrates the sensitive dependence on initial conditions as in the chaos theory.

When we are heading for an encounter, we never know what the next moment holds in store for us. In fact, we don't even know that there will be an encounter. We just don't have any idea what type of a relationship we are going to make up with the person we meet next.

 I don't know exactly how the encounter decides what type of a relationship exactly we are going to nourish, but i have some really weird examples to share.

In my experience, I have nourished awesome relationships with people who, from the encounter concluded me as someone too rude and an insensitive person.

I freshly remember the encounter with a senior back in my freshie semester (first semester in the college). We were all standing outside the ATM, keen to know whether the ATM was working or not. A man came out from the ATM, my senior asked in her shrill voice, "Uncle ye paisa nikal raha hai kya?" As usual, I was in a mood of flying fun.. I replied (I intended to utter in low volume but probably I failed), " Card daloge to paisa nikalega, fokat me thodi na nikalega!!" Everyone around was laughing except for her who was red-faced by now. I so much hoped that she forgets the incident. I so much wanted to apologize too, but I could never gather the guts to do so. I always chose to believe that no such incident ever happened.

But now, contrary to the encounter, me and her foster a really good friendship. She has always been there for help whenever I needed someone even my own friends couldn't turn up.

Now I wonder, in what way, encounters dictate the moments to come, the relationships we make up...